1 Peter 3:3-4
Don’t be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God.
Hello all! Lately, I have felt so inspired to talk about embracing your feminine side. Being feminine is something that many people in our culture frown upon, so I wanted to share with you my tips and advice for embracing being more feminine.
First off, God created women to be beautiful creatures. He made us to be nurturing, feminine, and gentle. As women, we love beautiful things and are drawn to them. We are emotional. We like to make things cozy and aesthetically pleasing. He truly created us in such an amazing way that holds so much purpose and value.
Femininity is sort of a lost art in today’s world as our current trends and styles seem to be more masculine. Now, I’m not saying I’m always the most feminine person. I love sweatpants just as much as the next person, but I am saying that we should all cultivate more femininity in our lives. Embracing who God made you to be is a journey, and it takes time and effort. Today I am going to share with you some tips on how to become more feminine on the outside.
Overdressing for the occasion
I would rather always be overdressed for an occasion instead of showing up in sweatpants and a messy bun. I encourage you to dress up whenever you are going somewhere. You never know who you are going to run into at the grocery store or gas station. Putting in more effort in your appearance will make you feel confident and ready to take on the day.
Carry yourself in an elegant manner
Be an elegant person. Carry yourself in a way that is confident and elegant. Radiate with these elements, but don’t carry yourself in a way that is unapproachable and says, “I am better than everyone else”
Don’t be flashy
This is something that is a huge pet peeve of mine. People are always so flashy on social media and the internet in general. My advice is basically to not post your entire life on the internet. People post their workouts, their coffee, their selfies, and their bikini photos for thousands of people to see. My question to them is why? Posting pictures constantly is not feminine. Instead, have an element of mystery to you. Have a serene confidence that demonstrates humility. You should not have to shove your appearance or achievements in other people’s faces. Instead, know your worth comes from the Lord, and leave it at that. Those who care about you will appreciate your good qualities and celebrate with you when you accomplish your goal weight or do something nice for someone else.
Modesty. A word that made me cringe for so long. My relationship with the idea of modesty has had its ups and downs. But like I mentioned earlier, have some mystery about you. Just like how no one needs to know about your entire life, not everyone needs to know what you look like in a bikini. I won’t tell you what you can and cannot wear, because that is up to your personal convictions. But I will tell you that not everyone deserves to see you in certain clothing. My guideline is this: dress for the occasion. For example, a mini dress would be inappropriate for church or a social outing, but if you were spending the day at the beach, it would be a great piece to wear! I know I have some super cute dresses I save for my swimsuit cover-ups and I feel so feminine and classy. If I wore the dress anywhere else, I know it would be inappropriate for the situation. Don’t let your physical appearance cause someone to doubt your character and who you are in Christ.
Don’t hide your feminine side
Oftentimes people will scoff or question me whenever I show up to class wearing a dress or a full face of makeup. But don’t be afraid to embrace your girly side. Instead, accept your femininity and embrace it as who you are. Be happy and confident in who God made you to be.
Since so many people don’t value being feminine, we often wonder “Where do these people even exist?” I have thought the same thing many times. However, through a bit of searching, I have found a few feminine women who have changed my views on so many things in a positive way. The first would be a blogger/youtuber named Mrs.Midwest. She is a great person to look to for advice on being feminine and many other women’s issues. The other thing I do to find inspiration is looking on Pinterest. I created a board called “Feminine + Modest Looks I Love” which has a huge array of feminine fashion. My Pinterest username is just Cami Dahms if you want to go check it out!
Like I said earlier, I know I’m not the most feminine person ever. I don’t wear a dress every day or always curl my hair. However, femininity is an area of my life that I am trying to grow. I want to look put together, and like I care about how I am carrying myself. So, I encourage you today to think about all the points I have discussed. Start being intentional with your femininity and begin developing it. Pick one of the points and do your best to cultivate that aspect of femininity this week! Next week, we will be discussing how to cultivate femininity on the inside. Have a blessed day, and good luck on your feminine journey. – Cami 🙂